How does an 11 month old know he's doing something he shouldn't?
I know perfectly well that it's the reaction that I make to his conduct that makes the naughty deed more enticing for him. If he's chewing on the remote and I ask him for it, "Jax, that is not toy. Please give that to Mommy." He pulls it away from me and shouts at me. Often times I will say "Oh thank you for finding the remote Jackson. Momma was looking for that." And that seems to go over a little better. However, the idea that the remote was NOT a toy - isn't being conveyed.
Why is it when he grabs for the vertical blinds over the patio doors and I say "No No, Jackson." That just makes him want to pull and tug on the expensive blinds? He knows what "Come here, please" - "Please give that to Momma" - "Can you give Daddy a kiss?" - "Turn the pages" all mean. That's because these are fun things to do. How am I suppose to make "Don't touch the blinds, please" fun? "Don't roll over while Momma's changing your diaper" - "No No, we don't throw our food on the floor" - "No touch - that's owies" "Hot, hot Jackson." These are not fun things for them. They are not things for me.
He's reaction to my discipline is shouting and yelling. He will stiffen his whole body, stretch out his neck and yell. Two things that are the most tempting for him are my keys and my wallet. If he catches a glimpse of these (which is always out in public) he will stiffen, scream and throw a fit. It's always easier to just give them to him.
I know perfectly well that there are household adjustments to make when babies become mobile. We have plugged the electrical outlets, we have a permanent baby gate installed at the top of the stairs. We put our coffee table in the basement, we covered the sharp edges of the end table. But I don't think it's necessary to completely remove absolutely everything that a baby may get into. I refuse to put everything lower than knee height just so he won't get into it. He needs to learn that these things are NOT toys, and they aren't to be touched. Children are completely capable of learning that.
My mother runs a daycare out of her home. Aside from the bin of toys that is put back in the children's play room after the children leave - you would never know she watched children for living. These children do not touch her potted plants, they don't touch her picture frames on the end tables, they don't pull out objects from the lower cabinets. She has never needed cabinet stoppers because the children know that it's off limits. They know what is a toy and what isn't.
I will not find a new location for the DVR and wireless router. They are below the tv, right at Jackson's eye level. There will always be something with blinking lights that will grab his attention. If I remove everything that distracts him, these items will always be the "new thing in the room" when they return. I shouldn't have to put away the lamp on the table, the wine bottles on the rack, the bathroom garbage and the cat. Just because the are at knee high height, does not mean that it's Jackson's.
How do I get a child who refuses to respond to the words "No No", and actually gets fueled by the command - to obey what is off limits?